Where Do Babies Come From?

PAIL’s January monthly theme for posts is “where do babies come from?”

A few weeks ago, I emailed the head ladies at PAIL in response to the ‘news article‘ Jules shared. More than a few readers were bringing up a hint of their answer to the question in the comments, and I suggested the question as a theme post, as I’d love to hear all and sundry’s views.

Now, as then, I am without a firm answer. But today, as I thought about what I’d say in my post, I realized that although, for quite some time, this has been the question that has me racking my brain for an answer that will be informative while not throwing me into a deep depression, it’s not really what’s important.

It’s just that one damn line that pisses me off, that beloved intro that you hear so often: ‘when a mommy and a daddy love each other very much…’

It’s bullshit. And we don’t perpetuate bullshit in this house. Except for Santa.

Science is what’s important. All babies come from sperm and egg, somehow. So yeah, we’ll go over that.

But the most important question, the real story, for Abby and for our future children who will come to us through adoption, isn’t where babies come from. It’s how each child joined our family.

And those stories do start with love.

For Abby, with how much we loved each other and how much we loved her, and that we had to fight and fight until finally a judge said that Abby belongs to Mom and Dad’s family just as much as she belongs to Mama’s.

As for the others, they’re still being written.

But they will come, because we love them.


4 Comments on “Where Do Babies Come From?”

  1. Stasy says:

    The “mommy and daddy love each other” is complete bullshit. I know several wonderful couples who love each other to no end that adopt because science isn’t on their side.

    I love how you intend to explain to Abby and to your future children.

    As for the “article”, I remember seeing that and it made me sick. Yes, I’ve been lucky enough to get pregnant without help, but if I wasn’t able to, I would call out anyone daring to judge me without being in my shoes. (Of course, I’m kind of a bitch…)

  2. slese1014 says:

    I’m a bullshitter….and not really with Santa…but I’ve thought to approach this with all babies come from love….because they are loved, no matter how they entered the world or how they were conceived. Science is definitely a part of is, especially mine as my child was conceived in a lab 40 miles away from my husband and me. But I want to be sure to emphasize how much my children are loved no matter how they came to be in my life….

    I think you’ve got a great thing planned. All of these posts are making me really think about how I will really approach this when the time comes for real. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and for requesting this theme.

    • April says:

      I can’t agree; *our* babies are loved, but definitely not *all* babies. I guess I just have a hard time with that sentiment because of my upbringing and others I have known.

      Thank you for reading and commenting!


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