Failure to VlogPosted: December 7, 2012
When I read about PAIL’s vlogiversary surprise, I was super excited to make a video! But what with all four of my parents just stopping by this week, I failed to make the time. So here’s my Q&A, in the same printed words you’ve always known me in. Maybe next time?
1. What country do you live in? If you feel comfortable sharing, what state or region as well? I’m in northwest Louisiana, in the southern US.
2. What is your favorite “ordinary moment” of the day? My favorite part of every day is the time either before or after Ian and I get into bed, when we’re catching each other up on our days or laughing again over highlights.
3. What is the first thing you do with your little one in the morning? Snuggles! I wake up to Abby’s doorknob rattling, then a herd of elephants thumping down the hall, throwing our door open, and crawling up the bed to lie down between us. She either brings her blanket, or cuddles up under Dad’s covers.
4. What has infertility changed the most about you? It’s very hard for me to separate the influences of infertility, infidelity, and depression. They really all blend together most of the time. I think what infertility specifically has changed the most is my faith in humanity. I have only once been treated as poorly as I have been by medical ‘professionals’ in seeking treatment for PCOS and assistance conceiving, and that was one person. Out of the dozens of doctors, nurses, and receptionists that I’ve come into contact with regarding infertility, over two-thirds have been dismissive, derisive, neglectful, or simply unconcerned. It hurt and hurt until it didn’t anymore, and I just became disgusted. I don’t want to be desensitized to people being assholes; I want assholery to be the exception, but for me, it was the rule.
5. What do you wish people knew about pregnancy or parenting through the ALI journey? That parenting and pregnancy aren’t mutually inclusive. Just as pregnancy does not always lead to parenting, parenting does not always stem from the parent’s pregnancy. Why does a complete stranger want to know about my child’s birth weight? I don’t know that; I don’t need to know that. I know she was healthy. That’s all that I need to know, and more than people that I don’t know need to know. Pet peeve, y’all! I had to throw some accent in since I didn’t vlog, right?